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Pamela A. Barry

April 9, 1956 – August 1, 2022

Pamela A. (O’Donnell) Barry, of Andover, Massachusetts, the beloved wife of Kevin J. Barry, passed away peacefully at the age of 66 on August 1, 2022.  Born in Lowell, Massachusetts, she was the daughter of the late Atty. Thomas J. and the late Ann M. (Muras) O’Donnell.

A graduate of Lowell High School (1974), Pam was the Colonel of the Girl Officers.  She earned a B.S. in Communication Disorders from the University of Massachusetts, Amherst (1978) and continued her education with advanced degrees from Northeastern University (M.S. Ed. in Speech and Hearing Science, 1981) and the University of Massachusetts, Lowell (CAGS in Reading and Language, 2001).  Pam was a speech and language pathologist for Tewksbury Public Schools for 5 years, before becoming a literacy specialist for Lowell Public Schools in 2000 and retiring in 2015.
Pam cherished her children and grandchildren.  She enjoyed spending time with family and friends on the beach in Seabrook, New Hampshire, and Jensen Beach, Florida, and had a lifelong love for reading and crossword puzzles.  Pam was a communicant of the Immaculate Conception Church, Lowell and St. Robert Bellarmine Church, Andover.

Besides her loving husband of 44 years, Kevin, she is survived by her five children, Kevin Barry (Robyn) of Newton, MA, Jacqueline (Barry) Druckman (Matthew) of Melrose, MA, Patrick Barry of Andover, MA, Michael Barry of Medford, MA, and Lauren Barry of Andover, MA; six grandchildren; Elliana, James and Vivienne Barry and Oliver, Charlie and Emma Druckman; three siblings, Thomas (Tod) O’Donnell (Gail Lantagne) of Tewksbury, MA, Debbie McLaughlin (Thomas) of Andover, MA and Mark O’Donnell and his late wife Virginia (Roper) of Lowell, MA.  Pam also leaves her nieces, nephews, and cousins as well as many dear friends, notably Nancy Burke of Andover, and Patricia Hayes of Chelmsford.

Pam’s family would like to express their appreciation to the excellent staff of Massachusetts General Hospital oncology department, including Dr. Colin D. Weekes, Laurie Miller, N.P., and Hilary D’Arcangelo, R.N. as well as the caregivers at Merrimack Valley Hospice.

Family and friends are invited to gather for her Memorial Visitation to be held on Friday, August 5, 2022, at the IMMACULATE CONCEPTION CHURCH  144 East Merrimack St. in Lowell, MA from 8:30 to 10:45 A.M., followed by a Mass of Christian Burial at 11:00 A.M. Her burial will follow at St. Mary Cemetery in North Tewksbury. E-condolences/directions at  Please consider a donation in her memory to either the Immaculate Conception Church Restoration Fund, 3 Fayette Street, Lowell, MA 01852 or the Monastery of Saint Clare, 445 River Road, Andover, MA 01810. Arrangements by O’DONNELL FUNERAL HOME.

Condolences (12)
  • Debi, Greg, Ben and Matt Tomas  - with saddened hearts
    Kevin, We were deeply saddened to learn of Pam's passing, what a shock. We are so used to seeing you and Pam take your walk on the beach and always Pam had a big smile and a big heart! This world has lost an angel and God has received one. May her soul rest in peace. May you and your beautiful family know that the love and joy Pam brought to the world still lives on in all of you! God Bless you all! Love, The Tomaszewski's
  • Mary Murray den Boggende  - Pam Was Someone I Always Looked Up To
    Dear Kevin and Family, I am so very sorry for your loss. Pam was a beautiful person. Even though I have not seen Pam for some years I will never forget her kindness and encouragement. I was 2 years behind Pam in high school and early on I wanted to participate in cheer leading and Girl Officers. Pam was so encouraging and gave me great advice and pointers. It all worked out thanks to Pam. She was someone I looked up to and admired. Thinking of you and your family during this difficult time.
  • Barb & Bob Sayer  - Deepest Sympathies
    Rabbit and Barry Family, Prayers and thoughts to you all being sent for the loss of your wife, mother and grandmother. Rest in Peace Pam!
  • David Kundin  - To the Barry family
    Having known Rabbit and Pam from the "old days" at UMASS it was always evident this was a couple that was very special. That just makes this loss tougher and my prayers and wishes are with Rabbit and the family during this difficult time. Be well and take care of each other. Dave Kundin Minneapolis, MN
  • Bill & Sandy Vergados  - Our sincere condolences
    To Kevin and Family….so sorry to hear about Pam. We still have very fond memories of those years we used to rent the beach house up in Seabrook when you, Pam & the kids were there the same week. Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.- Bill, Sandy & Jennifer.
  • Ray Keefe / Hollis, NH  - So very sorry
    Rabbit and Mocha. So sorry for the loss of your wife Rabbit, and your sister Mocha. Much too young to be called away. Condolences to your children and grandchildren Rabbit. Hoping the memories that they have of their mom and grandmother will always shine bright in their minds. Condolences also to both of your extended families. May Pam Rest In Peace knowing she was so well loved. Ray Keefe
  • Norman Charette  - Wonderful professional and person
    I knew Pam when she worked at the City Magnet School. She was a literacy specialist there and I was one of the teachers. I remember her as being a true professional who contributed so much to the school's literacy program and made a huge impact on the school's program. Pam also was a kind and warm person who would always make time for you if you needed her counsel, advice, or just some ideas. Her sense of humor also made the school a better place. My sympathies to the family. I know that she will be missed.
  • Jim Casey  - A person this world will miss.
    Growing up and to this day Pam's brother Mark is my closest life long friend. It is through this friendship that I witnessed a great young girl become a great young woman that accomplished much through education, dedication and hard work. Mark was always so proud of Pam and this pride continued to grow as Pam embraced and cherished being a loving and supportive wife, mother and friend. I want to extend my deepest condolences to the Barry and O'Donnell families on this tragic loss. You will be in my thoughts and prayers. Touched by Pam's warmth and compassion. My deepest condolences to the Barry and O'Donnell families. This world miss Pam, but will always carry Pam in our hearts.
  • Colin Weekes  - An Honor
    Dear Kevin and family. I wanted to take this opportunity to express our sincere condolences for your family's loss. It was an honor to have the opportunity to help guide Pam through her journey with Pancreas cancer. She was such a beautiful and humble woman. She brought joy to her care givers. It was always a better day when I knew I was seeing her in clinic. I hope she is now at peace and will live through the lessons she taught all of those who had the opportunity to know her. She will remain in my heart going forward. Sincerely, Colin
  • Martha “Martie” Donohoe  - God Bless you Pam.
    You were a terrific friend who made high school a whole lot more enjoyable. I never would have made the rank I did in Girl officers if it wasn’t for your kindness, perseverance, and willingness to help your clumsy friend. I will never forget how good you were to me. I still remember going to midnight mass on Christmas Eve with the top down on FJ’s convertible. Young and fearless we were. Also, the trips up to UMass Amhearst. We always had a blast with Patti and Nancy. Those are some of my fondest memories of us all. There will never be another Pam. God Bless you. I’ll see you again on the other side my friend. Xoxo
  • Eileen Casey  - Pam O'Donnell Barry - Lovely Person With That Grea
    To the Barry and O'Donnell families: I was deeply saddened at learning of the loss of the one of the nicest people I have ever known (as a child, in high school-same graduating class at LHS), and as an adult. Pam always had a beautiful smile, encouraging word and great sense of humor. Those in her orbit immediately recognized and will always treasure her charm and graciousness. I extend my sincere condolences to her husband, children, grandchildren and her siblings. Our families share many memories over the years and Pam will be deeply missed. Eileen Casey-Charleston, SC
  • Tom and Debbie McLaughlin  - Pam Barry she lived a great life!
    Rab, Kevin, Mike, Pat, Lauren and Jackie, The world lost a great woman who made an impact on the lives of others. Pam was what being a mother and loving wife was all about. She and Rab raised a wonderful family of great and caring kids. Pam May be gone but her legacy will go on thru her kids and her grandkids. She was so proud to be from Lowell and she was a a fixture on her beach front home in Seabrook and in her later years in her wonderful place in Florida. Wherever she went she brought joy and always a little bit of humor. She had it all Beauty, wit and a calming manner. Til the day she died she handled all life’s challenges with utmost dignity and Grace. She was a woman who was in control and on top of things. May Pam Rest In Peace and May the Lord protect her and the world lost a great mother, wife and the best sister my wife Debbie could ever have. She will be missed especially on Thanksgiving when she and Rab gracefully hosted family gatherings of 50 people. They did it as a fine tuned team and were always as welcoming as could be. Pam Barry made our world a better place. They were utterly unassuming and were made for one another. They had a timeless love.
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